Self esteem simply means how you estimate yourself, that is, what opinions you have of yourself and how much value you put on yourself. A person with healthy self esteem is one who is comfortable in his or her own skin, situation in life and with what are other’s attitudes towards him or her. We all struggle with self-esteem at some point in our lives. Some struggle more than others. Our negative self-perceptions are usually caused by what others say about us. Self-image is the most common area of low self-esteem. We are constantly facing images and messages from the media that tell us we need to better ourselves. We need to be thinner, we need to be darker, our hair needs to look “Salon perfect” all the time. And, right from our childhood, people comment on the way we look, the way we dress and the way we present ourselves. Some of us get compliments all the time, while most of us have been crisicised over some aspect of our appearance, at some point in our lives.
So, this brings me onto some advice…wear make up for yourself, not others.
It is a misconception to think that the way we present ourselves should be based on how we want people to perceive us. People with low self-esteem are those more often than not people-pleasers. Makeup helps you in putting yourself before others. As you apply that liquid eyeliner, don’t you love how gorgeous your eyes suddenly look? And you had those eyes all along, it only took some eyeliner for you to see how beautiful they are. Every makeup item we use is one step towards making us see how beautiful we are. Your foundation should not hide your natural skin colour. It should only even out those little imperfections. Your blush is to give you a healthy glow, which would emanate anyway as you believe how nice you look. Your mascara-ed eyelashes, your luscious lips…every makeup routine is like an ode to your own beauty. Celebrate it! If you can celebrate your professional and personal achievements, then why leave out your appearance?